Bonjour lecteurs! Like many of you, I have been reflecting on 2018 to set myself some targets to achieve in 2019. And while I was sorting out some old notebooks, I came across a diary I wrote back in 2014. And you know what stroke me? How much I changed and how much I accomplished in 4 years! And yet, I am starting the year feeling guilty about things I have not achieved last year. En plus, all I can read online is about New Year’s Resolutions. But reading back at this page I wrote on the 25th of August 2014, I tell you now, you should start the year celebrating your successes rather than contemplating what you still need to do!
Back to what I came across from 2014. I was merely moaning at a Summer Bank holiday being rainy. Also feeling sorry for myself for not achieving much in my life since 2010.
The truth is that I never really saw myself as an ambitious woman and I never wanted to climb up the ladder. I only loved working with children and sharing about my culture. But looking back at this very private moment, I realised how much I have changed in the last few years. And yes, I might have put on weight and get some grey hair, but I accomplished quite a few things!
In 4 years (that is quite short in a lifetime when you think about it!), I did so much! We bought our first house with Grumpy Boyfriend. Detached, 4 bedrooms and with a lovely garden. Exit the renting life! The dream for many people, even if we are not in London anymore.
I also took the plunge and set up my own business as a blogger. After playing around for over 1 year and pretending that the Frenchie Mummy was merely a hobby to be more than a mum, I quitted my teaching job and became self-employed.
We survived a miscarriage and we now have a beautiful and cheeky toddler sharing our life (and probably taking more space than I would have never imagined when I begged my partner for a bébé!).
I work from home while raising a kid and trying to keep the house as tidy as possible (not easy when you live with Grumpy Boyfriend, let me tell you! There are many times when I feel like killing him!) and I do it all on my own: boring admin, pitching to brands, photos and editing, writing and research to progress and all… And I am not even saying that I am the best, let alone any good sometimes! But oh boy, I try!
Looking back at the young woman about to turn 30 in 2015, I realise now, that like too many of us, I am focusing on things that are not there yet. When really, I should start the year celebrating my successes! And as I type those lines now, I become aware that I did quite a bit! ACHIEVE. A big word that always makes us feel bad when really, we have all done so in our own way! So why do we keep punishing ourselves about what we need to do less or more!
I did a quick list of all my awesome achievements. We worked with many brands that I have liked over the years! And I met some fabulous people like Emma Bunton (Baby Spice people! Big thing to the Frenchie Maman, let me tell you!). And even if Grumpy Boyfriend helps me with the mortgage (we share the house after all!), I earn my own money!
Let’s take this morning par example. I got up at 7 am, caught up with all my emails since taking a break at Christmas. Posted my daily picture on Instagram (have a look and give us some love if this post put you in a good mood! Merci!). Two coffees down, it is not even midday and I also cleaned up the kitchen, got Baba ready to go to the nursery, told my men how much I loved them, done two sets of laundry and also executed a workout.
Oh, and I wrote this blog post after coming across a younger me from 2014, unhappy and unsatisfied with her life and smoking too many cigarettes!
Actually, another great success down the lines ticked in those years I am reflecting on. I quitted smoking! Bam! And you know the worst? When I woke up this morning, I remember thinking ‘Time to start the new Moi today! Back to work and let’s rock’n’ roll 2019!’
But you know what? I already rocked 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017 and 2018 too! And there were some moments difficiles down the lines! Losing a baby in 2014 (it was a baby, and not an embryo to me, even at 12 weeks old!). Baba having heart surgery when he
So right now, after pressing ‘publish’, I will get my third coffee of the day and I will cheer to all that I have achieved in those years! And you should too! Whatever it is for you ( a new job, a project you went through, raising some good kids…), you should start the year celebrating your successes and not feeling guilty with New Year’s Resolutions! Take 10 minutes and write down all the good things you did!
And keep being your awesome You! Because even if there will be shit days (there are always ups and downs), you will go through it and you will still evolve! It doesn’t matter how fast you will do it, the new You on the first of January 2020 will be better! Like a good old Merlot! Tastier with age!
Now go and kick this 2019 Ass ladies!
Happy New Year 2019! Bonne Année 2019!