Christmas is coming soon! People have decorated the house, bought some presents. Everyone has a cool Christmas jumper. It will be our first ever Noël with Baba and I am very excited about it, especially as we are going to France this year. I am sure my entire family is looking forward to squeezing Baba’s cheeks! Are you all getting in the mood? Are les enfants excited about it all? Did you take them to meet le Père Noël? I didn’t as Baba is still small and I am concerned that he might be a bit scared. Another thing that stopped me: by doing so, I am lying to my son. You know the big secret about Christmas right? Santa Claus doesn’t exist! So do you think we should lie about Santa Claus to our kids?
In the Frenchie household, we are divided on the question. Grumpy Boyfriend is adamant that we won’t tell all this fairytale to Baba. We should not tell him about Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy for example. In his opinion, it is lying to our children and breaking this trust that they have in us.
I partly agree with him. If you think about it, the meaning behind Santa Claus and other fantasy figures like him are based on a fabrication and are a way for us to control our children. I am sure you all had it! When I was a little girl, my parents blackmailed me every year to be a good girl if I wanted Santa Claus to bring me my presents.
Kids are naïve and blindly believe their parents. After all, they are supposed to show kids the path and teach them life. So why do you want to build this relationship on such a bad basis? As parents, we are supposed to set the example and build a relationship of trust with our little ones. So why compromise this? On behalf of giving them a magic moment? But what is the point if it’s for mon enfant to be disappointed later on?
I know I don’t have to worry about it for this year as Baba is still too young and won’t understand, but I am torn about it. I don’t want him to miss out the fun. Imagine, at school when all his friends are getting in the mood and he is not part of it? He will feel excluded. Plus, he is a child and should enjoy the joys of it as well.
I remember a friend of mine being devastated when a pupil told her that Santa Claus didn’t exist. Personally, I can’t remember being traumatised so much about it when I discovered the truth. I was actually one of the first ones to have discovered the fraud and felt quite proud of it. It was like knowing a special secret. From then, the most difficult part was to resist not telling my younger cousins. But did I perceive my parents in a bad way as soon as I discovered that they lied to me all those years? Pas vraiment. I don’t even remember being that upset about the whole thing. I was more concerned about having presents, to be honest!
So what do you make of it? Do you think we teach our children betrayal when we lie about Santa Claus? Are we somehow showing them that we, parents can’t be trusted? Is it another way to manipulate our children and control their thoughts? I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts about it, as I have not decided yet what I will personally do myself.