Really great post – i don’t know what is wrong with people that they wouldn’t give up their seat if they see someone who may need it! I think sometimes you just have to ask though.
Totally agree and this campaign is also here to empower mamas-to-be to feel that they can ask
In the first trimester it can be hard to tell if someone is pregnant but I do give up my seat if they are obviously pregnant, old, disabled or have young children ?
I know what you mean, you do not want to offend anyone. Fair enough
I can’t believe in this day and age people wouldn’t offer a pregnant lady a seat – it’s the first thing I do when I see one! I think sometimes people are too busy looking at their phones to even notice!
I think people do not mean to be rude. As you said they are just looking at their phones… a shame really…
It’s so awful how many people wouldn’t give up a seat. Including women! Aren’t we supposed to look out for each other? In my first trimester I really struggled with sickness and feeling very dizzy. I asked for seats a couple of times, but usually just said I wasn’t feeling well rather than saying I was pregnant. Everyone I asked was happy to let me sit, and then when I felt better or was getting off I would offer the seat back to the same person if they were still riding.
that is good people gave your their seat. I agree, we need to support each other as women!
We live in a sad world when people dont respect others – common courtesy and decency needs to ne brought back into focus
This is very sad indeed. Happy you liked this post
Of course it should be natural to give up your seat if someone is in need through age, pregnancy or infirmity. A suitable badge really would help though, as it would be so embarrassing to offer if the young woman was not pregnant or refused the offer!
Yes that is true. thanks for reading
I honestly do believe people today are selfish: as long as ‘I’ am okay, so is everyone else. If I see someone who needs the seat more than me I’m always happy to give it up. I sat on the floor on a train for nearly 3 hours because people, selfishly, were using spare chairs for their bags. Although I’m not IN NEED of a seat, it would be polite..
It’s sometimes is hard to tell in the early days so a badge is a good idea. It was very 50/50 when I was pregnant the older generation would leap up to give me a seat, but the younger generation often had headphones in and avoided eye contact. Great post though!
Again, you are not the first to say that older generations would have better manners. This is such a shame. Thanks for reading
It astonishing that so many people wouldn’t give up their seat to someone who needs it more.
Do you think that it is a generation thing?
This is such a great post – I think basic manners are being forgotten, regardless of the situation. Kaz
I think it’s a generation thing . When I was younger we offered our seats to pregnant ladies , disabled and elderly people without hesitation . I think today people are so busy with their mobile phones and their brains are elsewhere. It would be nice if these type of manners were taught more. I’ve often seen an elderly gentleman offering a lady a seat though which I find more than kind x
Oh wow, this is such a surprise. I do not go out much on public transport but if I did and seen an expecting mum, I would always give my seat up for them. It would not cross my mind not to give it up 🙂
I catch the train every day and nobody would ever get up except me, I often offer.
It’s sad that we live in a world were manners and respect seems to have disappeared
My first pregnancy I didn’t take public transport as we lived in Edinburgh and I just walked everywhere. My second pregnancy we lived in Berlin, and while I’ve heard horror stories from other mums-to-be in Berlin being ignored, I never had a problem getting a seat. People were always ready to jump up and let me sit. I must have been lucky.
Back in the seventies, when I was a teenager, it was rare to see a woman left standing on a bus, let alone a pregnant woman.
Ah, I saw this on television and was shocked. I would always stand up for a mum to be x
Some people these days just don’t take other peoples needs into consideration it’s all me me me ??
As a wheelchair user who has taken the train I’ve met these people head on too it isn’t pleasant.
It’s so easy to help someone else but many people’s view these days is Why Should I? ?
I can’t believe this is even in question!! You should always stand for an expectant mama. I have seen it when people have refused to move and it is awful! It is a case of kindness and good manners.
I had a Baby on board badge because I needed it! Because generally they wouldn’t even offer … I remember once I asked someone when they looked at me blankly i pointed at the badge. I swear if the woman opposite hadn’t been giving him daggers he would never have moved! Yet more recently two gentlemen have given up their seat for me (maybe I look pregnant again? eek!) xx
I have always found people helpful and willing to give a seat to a pregnant lady or an older person.
Good read I get the train everyday to work and seen many times people put there heads down and pretend they don’t see an expected mum standing , why are people so rude !!! I remember I was going through chemo treatment and wore a head scarf so you could clearly see I was having some sort of treatment no one offered me a seat either .
I would move if asked, a lot of people probably wouldn’t notice the badge or realise what it was.
I have been lucky people always stood up for me and I for them – but as all 4 of my babies were all well over 4.5 kg I think people were just a little worried I may be giving births sooner than later!
I had a ‘Bump on board’ badge when pregnant but sadly didn’t get offered a seat anyway!
i think that some people don’t offer there seat to pregnat ladies in the early stages because of a fear of offending them in case there not pregnant but i find when it is ovious they are pregnant most people will give there seat up
This is a great post , we live in different world now , where people will keep themselves to themselves , on there phones all the time not looking around them to notice
The problem in the first trimester is when people have done this and it turns out to be someone who has gained a few pounds for other reasons it causes offence. I have done this a few times and had my head bitten off, and as I get older and offer my seat to others they tell me I need it more – rude ?.
Although when I was heavy pregnant with my secon son, one hot day some arrogant man roughly barged pass me and tried to push in a queue at the bank and I gasped and they left the bank in embarrassment. Everyone in the queue was in fits when they realised I was just trying to stop him queue jumping.
I think everyone should give up their seat with elderly as an exception
Great post! I remember passing out on a crowded train on the way to work while pregnant and came round to see a sea of commuters’ faces staring down at me and a nice guy trying to keep my head off the train floor. It shouldn’t be necessary to ask.
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