Bonjour lecteurs! Love is one of the most powerful forces in parenting. Yet it’s also one of the most misunderstood. Every child expresses love differently, depending on their personnalité et éducation. Over time, parents can ‘read’ their children and get to know their unique emotional language. By doing so, we help our children feel seen and understood. Plus, it’s a great way to boost their confidence and make them feel safe at all times. Understanding Your Child’s Emotional Language is the key to a happy family. How do your children usually express love? Let me know in the comments how your little ones show you love.
The Quiet Comforter
Some children are naturally reserved. So they express love through their actions or presence rather than with words. They may sit quietly beside you, follow your lead without fuss, or seek eye contact for reassurance. Often indépendant, the Quiet Comforter can still create deep connections.
Their love language is subtle. They might not tell you how they feel, but they show you their feelings with small gestures. Par exemple, they stay with you while you cook dinner or gently cuddle you when you watch TV on the sofa.
What they need most is emotional safety and routine. They respond well to consistency and moments of calm connection, such as reading together or a quiet walk. Don’t push them to express their feelings; instead, create space where they feel comfortable showing it in their own time.
The Expressive Heart
Being French, I am definitely part of that group… The Expressive Heart is all about shouting their love to you.
Often affectionate and intense, they can sometimes go on the dramatic side. Imagine them running to give you hugs and saying “Je t’aime” multiple times a day. They might even scribble love notes or shout across the playground just to say they missed you.
Their emotional volume is high but that’s not because they are trying to overwhelm you. They simply express love in waves as they feel it so deeply and they expect it in return!
These children need lots of emotional validation. When they feel dismissed or ignored, it really hurts and they can feel unseen. The best way to nurture them is through warmth, empathy, and open expressions of love. So be ready for lots of cuddles. Sometimes, they might just need to lend on an empathetic ear to vent.
The Little Thinker
For some children, love is expressed through curiosité. They ask questions, share facts, and enjoy deep conversations. Rather than hugging you randomly, they might show affection by telling you everything they learned at school or asking what you think about a certain topic.
These are intellectual children, and they build une connection émotionelle through understanding. If they feel you “get” them, they feel close to you. Their way of saying “I love you” might sound more like some random facts. “Did you know a black hole can’t be seen directly?” They just want to share with you.
To connect with a little thinker, you need to engage with them and their idées. Listen to their thoughts, answer their questions, and take their interests sérieusement.
The Adventurous Soul
Some children express love through shared experiences and physical presence. They are true adventurers and like nothing more than going on a bike ride or do things with you.
These kids don’t always sit still long enough for heart-to-hearts, but they’re deeply connected through actions. When they bring you into their world of movement and play, they are inviting you into their inner circle and that feel super spécial.
To connect with them, focus on shared adventures. Go to the park, build something together, or play imaginative games. For them, love is an experience, not a conversation, so go and explore life with them.
The Giver
Other children like expressing their love through acts of kindness or small gifts. They love making things for others, helping with chores, or bringing you snacks. If your child regularly presents you with handmade cards or insists on helping you fold the laundry, this might be their emotional language.
Their love is practical. They just want to feel needed and appreciated. They may not express feelings verbally, but their actions speak volumes. If they sense their efforts are unnoticed, they can quickly feel unseen.
So encourage their générosité, and be sure to acknowledge their contributions. A simple merci goes a long way. These children flourish when they feel their thoughtfulness matters.
But Also…
Another thing that can affect the way children love is their astrological sign. I truly believe that it can impact on life en général, but also on your love life! I am very compatible with Grumpy Boyfriend because we are both fiery and we are very similar in many ways.
Exploring something like Scorpio and Sagittarius compatibility can provide insight into how different emotional energies interact within a family dynamic. While it’s not a scientific rulebook, astrology can be a fun and thought-provoking framework to reflect on how your child relates to others.
Understanding Your Child’s Emotional Language
Kids show love differently and understanding your child’s emotional language can take time. Often, it is just naturel and your intuition will take over.
Children may not always have the words to express how they feel, but their actions are rich with meaning. Learning to understand your child’s emotional language is not only about making them feel loved—it’s about building a foundation of trust, empathy, and connection that lasts a lifetime.
What kind of loving person are you children?
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