Did you all see that yesterday? No Twitter! It was la panique in the Frenchie house. I just managed to go home from the Baby Show in Olympia (if you haven’t booked your ticket yet, do it for the next one in March! It’s awesome!) so that I could catch up with tweets before going out for dinner.
It was not working! I kept calm, played with Baba instead and as soon as le petit monstre was asleep, I tried again. That time, no internet! I screamed at Grumpy Boyfriend for a little bit. He could not do anything. How useless! In the end, I had to capitulate. No blog, no Facebook, no Twitter for Frenchie Mummy on Friday night! It sucked!
‘Well, you better find something to keep you amused. Why don’t you read a book?’ suggested Grumpy Boyfriend. A book?! Moi? I can’t even remember what un livre looks like anymore. I reckon the last time I managed to read more than 10 pages without falling asleep must have been before Baba! I could feel the sarcasm in Grumpy Boyfriend’s voice. Deep down, he loved seeing me sad because I could not do any blogging…
He had a point, though. I sometimes behave like a junkie when it’s about my blog… Cependant, may I say to the hacker in the US who caused Twitter not to work properly yesterday: ‘You suck! You’re an idiot! I wish I was a super geek like you and I would hack your computer with the worst birth stories and the most beautiful baby’s pictures so that you realise that you have a lonely life! And you troubled a lot of mummies yesterday! You naughty man!’ Right, the rant is done so let’s go back to business…
So oui, Frenchie Mummy read a book! Well, she started it. It was not Balzac nor Zola but The Unmumsy Mum by Sarah Turner. I am pretty sure I don’t need to introduce her, right? And guess what, I managed to not only read the introduction but also the first chapter. And then I was zonked out, so I closed my eyes. I really liked it. She talks about her pre-baby life and her expectations about being a mum.
What was it like for us? Well, it was quite different before having Baba. I am sure you are nodding your head here. The same for you, right?
Something made me smile the other day. I needed to go to London quite early in the morning. The kind of time when you actually get up before dawn. It was dark and I was waiting for an early bus. In the end, the N3 arrived and I took it.
Travelling on a night bus is nothing, I agree with you. But I could not stop myself from giggling. In the distant days before Baba, I would take the same bus with Grumpy Boyfriend. But it was not to go to work before 8am!
We would catch this bus to go back home at 5am after a crazy night of clubbing hard! I can sometimes still be up at 5am but it’s for a totally different reason: it’s when I feed Baba! ?
Do you remember those days before the baby? I am sometimes nostalgic when I think about that period.
Having breakfast in bed while watching some movie, cuddling up for ages. Making love like animals all the time!
Or curl up on the sofa with some wine. Now there is always Baba in the middle and Grumpy Boyfriend ends up cuddling him! I am not jalouse. Just remembering the old good days…
The ones when I could go anywhere in London without having to think carefully about my journey. Now, I need to make sure that there are lifts with the buggy and yet, it’s not always working out… Let’s take yesterday for example. I went to Olympia. I needed to take a train and then the Overground. It was simple. Except that there was a delay with the train and when I arrived at the final destination, I had to lift the buggy as there were only stairs.
Another thing I can do anymore? Call my friend out of the blue and go on a shopping spree. Well, I can still do that but shopping with a baby is not the same. He always needs a feed or a change at the wrong moment.
Or suddenly, Baba decides to have a massive strop while I am in a fitting room, trying a bikini on ! I let you imagine the scene. It’s hot in there, I just got undressed to discover my horrible mummy body (but it’s all for a good cause and we should be proud of it…). So I feel depressed for five seconds but decide to be brave and try on a couple of swimsuits. I really struggle to do so. I told you it was hot, right? Sweating like a pig and suddenly Baba screams like never. I literally have one leg in the bloody thing and I am trying to comfort him as I can. Stressed out, I am sweating a bit more. The baby feels the tension and therefore has the brilliant idea to start tapping his legs like this place is hell on earth…
So I give up, I get dressed again. Grab the first bikini from my selection, pay quickly at the till and leave the shop as fast as possible. Once back on the High Street, le bébé is fine. Too good if you want my opinion! He is fast asleep, snoring like un cochon! And he totally screwed my shopping experience! ‘I still love him, he is still adorable… Everything is awesome!’
So yes, I miss my pre-baby life sometimes… I now wish I played it harder. So I am telling you what, if you want children or trying for a baby, have a life now!!! You’re 6 months pregnant and feel tired? Do you hate being sick every single morning? You’ve seen nothing yet!
I am selling it to you, right? ?
Oh, I forgot to tell you: your life will be amazing. No more party time on Friday nights, no more booze (when you are pregnant), no more worries about what to wear (you will wear leggings all the time).
You want more? You will get your first grey hair, you will constantly worry about le bébé. Is he warm enough? Has he had enough food? Why isn’t he asleep at 8pm like any other normal kid? Am I a bad mum if I put him in a nursery before he is 1? Am I making sure that he is entertained enough? Am I blogging too much? Am I a bad mum?
Just kidding! It’s all good! Having a baby is the best thing ever. Forget the pain before, during and after the birth. It’s all parfait! I mean, look at him!
Mummies, I want to know it all! Do you ever feel nostalgic about your life before the baby? What do you miss the most? And what do you not miss at all? Let’s be positive for the poor creatures who have not done it yet…??
I miss my convertible that hubby made me sell because it wasn’t baby friendly (even though I argued that it had isofix so must be family friendly ?) But on a serious note I miss the lie ins, I used to sleep until lunchtime on my days off, this whole up at 6.30am is not my cup of tea at all! I don’t miss the going out, getting drunk and rolling in at silly o clock, I love that having a baby is a great excuse not to go to these sorts of events! But missing out on sleep and partying is totally worth it, I have forgotten what life was like before having a baby (that or the sleep deprevation has wiped it out of my memory) #KCACOLS
I agree with you. When I saw that bus, it just reminded me the young Frenchie but the aby is worth anything! I am ok with lie ins but sometimes I would love to be more more spontaneous, you know like ‘I want to go there’ and you go. it doesn’t take minutes to get ready and make sure you get all the baby stuff lol. Thanks again for commenting x
I understand completely, sometimes I think ‘we will go to the shops’ then my son decides it’s a good time for a nap, so once that’s happened, I’m ready to go and all the baby stuff is ready I can’t be bothered!!
I smiled and laughed as I read this as it relates to me so much. I love my daughter and would never change her or having her. However, I miss sleeping and waking until I feel refreshed;now I’m just a walking zombie. And I have resorted to buying pretty much everything online as it’s so much easier. But I love my daughter; she’s worth it.
They are worth it all, no wonder. Thanks for reading x
The only thing I miss about my old life is being able to sleep when I’m not feeling well.
Besides that I love the way my life is now!
so many mummies told me the same haha. Thanks for reading x
Ha! Sometimes I really do – definitely the shopping trips (not that I ever went much but still!), things like being able to watch a tv programme or cook a nice meal or go somethere spontaneously (everything takes forever now!). Of course it goes without saying that I love my life now (why do we feel we HAVE to say that?!) but there’s no denying that it’s definitely different and WAY less restful!!
I agree with everything you said! Yu are juts right about everything and why do we feel like we have to say that our mummy life is great? LOL thanks for reading x
Lovely post and yes it’s a few little things I miss too. Just to sleep not late but 7 would be great ? #sundaybest
the sleep thing comes back a lot! You are not the only one lol. Thanks for stopping by x
Your posts always make me smile, my babies are 20 and 16 now and thank goodness I had them when i was 21, so I still had the energy to have a baby and go clubbing or whatever random adventure I felt like… now I am old and kanckered from being wild and a mummy, it wont be long before one of them makes me a nanny and them Il start clubbing again to feel young again (ha ha ) #KCACOLS
Go for it! You don’t want to regret anything! LOL Thanks for your lovely comment. Happy to make people smile xx
My children are older now so I am getting a little of my pre baby days back now. Although, I wouldn’t change things a bit.
I wouldn’t either. It just funny to see how your life can change. thanks for reading x
Oh my goodness, i miss all the little things like having a lazy sunday morning and getting up only to grab a nice coffee and brunch in a little café or having a stroll along the Trent, now we always have to make sure theres something to keep Mia entertained and getting us all ready to get out of the house takes so long, its midday before we have even got in the car! 🙂
We are the same! Thanks for reading x
I don’t think we’d be human if we didn’t miss parts of our old life. I miss the time to myself more than anything. I’m very much an introvert and love spending time on my own without having to talk to anyone. I miss getting ready in the morning with my music blaring full blast to set me up for the day. Surprisingly I don’t miss the nights out. I’ve happily adapted to cosy nights in in front of the telly – or more recently the laptop!! Having said all of this I wouldn’t change my little man for the world. I can’t imagine life without him.
Great post – I love the way you write! 🙂 #justanotherlinky
merci and I think you summed up very well. We love them so much that we won’t change anything lol x
I have a very vague recollection of all of those things, almost thirteen years ago now! I had my first at twenty four and my youngest at thirty four so those days are long gone. I miss my sleep and those lazy sundays but I don’t miss the hangovers that’s for sure! #justanotherlinky
Me neither! thanks for reading x
It feels like a total whirlwind from the time my partner and I got all ‘romantically inclined’ (if you can call it that!) and now sitting here in bed bouncing a very bunged up Max whilst the other half has fallen asleep waiting for his back rub! I love my babies more than tbhthjng but I really do miss staying out until 2am just driving around or walking on beaches and beside lakes. Now we’re dead to the world usually by 7pm and that’s before we’ve even fallen asleep! Pre baby days were fun but post baby days are exciting! 🙂
I feel like I’m learning French every time I read this blog haha. I often find myself uttering the same words/phrases throughout the day all because I read them here, so Thankyou for the education! Haha #KCACOLS
haha pas de problème, thanks for your fabulous comment x
The hubs and I relived life before kids this weekend. It will hurt for at least a week and my liver hates me right now.
“le petit monstre” is so cute and hilarious. 🙂 I would also suggest every aspiring mom or dad to have a great time before they plan to have a baby. After that it will be all about the baby. Having a baby will mean no more late night parties, booze and a carefree life but it will be totally worth it. Only a parent can know what it feels when your lil one hugs you.
I so agree with you, thanks for reading x
I miss sleep. I miss sleep so much. #KCACOLS
There are definite drawbacks to being an “older father’ but one benefit is that at least I can look back at my 20s and 30s and say that I had a hell of a run before settling down and becoming a family man. A little more sleep would be nice though…#KCACOLS
I miss being in control of my day! Those days when you think “I’ll get such and such done”… ha ha, like hell you will, guaranteed nap free day is coming up! #kcacols
That’s it! Being in control! That’s what I really miss! Thanks for reading x
There are things I miss about my pre-children life, like sleeping as much as I wanted to! But honestly, when I fell pregnant with my son I was so ready for my life to change. I remember so badly wanting to move on to that next stage in my life. x #KCACOLS
me too! it’s funny how we change. Thanks for reading
It was only four years ago but I can hardly remember I thing about life before my children. I have literally no idea what I used to when I woke up at the weekends. Just wander about aimlessly I reckon #KCACOLS
I was 38 when we had our first baby so we had a LONG time together before the kids came along. The thing is I wanted a baby for sooo long and we had some amazing holidays and fun times together. But a lot of it was overclouded with this one thing that was missing. Now they are both here, I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to just enjoy every second. That things will work out in the end. There’s a time for everything. This week I had a text from a (single) friend saying she’s off for a shopping trip in NYC in December. I had a pang of envy. Why didn’t I do that every December in my 30s??!! Of course I could go now but I just don’t want to. I’m quite happy planning which grotto we’ll take our 2 year old for the first time to visit Santa. And probably have a meltdown LOL
I miss being able to do things spontaneously, and I miss going to gigs and festivals. But otherwise, I love my new life 🙂 Thanks for linking up to #SundayBest x
Oh I think we can all relate to the world pre babies!! I am an ‘older’ mummy so I sure did have a life before kids. Going straight to work from parties (that’s when we partied mid week!) Eating dinner late, restaurants, holidays…it has all changed and like you there are times when I think ‘argh!!’ But those days are nostalgia days and I wouldn’t change life now with my two little Shires for anything!!
You are right, I won’t change it either. Or maybe not… ?