Bonjour lecteurs! Feeling a bit overwhelmed at times? In between packing lunches, doing the laundry and the endless to-do list that goes with mum life, you can still feel like you are not doing enough at times. Already feeling drained, and the little ones are yet to go back to school? Mum guilt is huge. Even worse, it’s always there at any age. This is why you might need to find a therapist. It can help to have someone who provides no judgment and actually listens without interrupting. No need to carry mum guilt on your own and feel stressed all the time. You already have enough on your plate, so it’s time to get some support if it’s becoming too much. Let me show you why using a therapist to deal with mum guilt is la solution for a happier you.
What Is Mum Guilt
Mum guilt can be really difficile to deal with at times. You know, that weight sitting heavy on your heart, that feeling that you are not doing enough?
It can show up anytime: when you go back to work after your maternity leave, or if you let them have some screen time so that you can do some work during the summer holidays. Un autre exemple? When you miss a school’s event like sports’ day because you can’t take a day off.
It can even happen when you compare yourself to someone else. What might be a bit of guilt can sometimes turn into something worse. Some women might experience it further and constantly feel stressed and empty. You have the impression that nothing is ever enough. Indeed, motherhood is full of headaches. It’s an emotional rollercoaster that takes all your energy, self-confidence, and presence. If you fear it is deteriorating your health, you need to take action.
Therapy Helps With Mum Guilt
Mum guilt can sometimes feel like a quiet weight you carry with you wherever you go. It’s always on your mind even during your happy moments.
Sometimes, it can become too heavy to carry and you need support. Therapy can help you feel safe again. With the support of an expert, you can make sense of all your multifaceted thoughts while letting go of the shame and learn new ways to implement self-care.
In this blog post, I tell you all the reasons why using a therapist to deal with mum guilt.
It Creates a Safe Space To Talk
Therapy is here to give you a safe, non-judgmental place to talk about feelings you may not feel comfortable saying out loud.
When a mum therapist listens, they are doing so with compassion. Furthermore, they can help you put words to the things you usually feel too heavy to carry alone.
Once you let it go and speak with honesty about how you feel, you will be lighter. But your therapist will also help you realise that some are just thoughts and not la réalité.
Where Mum Guilt Comes From
Even better, your therapist will get you to dig deeper into where your guilt comes from. You might be surprise by your findings. Is it because of cultural standards, family expectations, or because your are une perfectionniste?
Where does that voice telling you that you are not doing enough comes from?
You will be able to look at the patterns and find ways to deal with it better. Very often, they are not actual facts but more a bad perception mums have of themselves.
Your therapist will guide you and gently move you through this process, so that you let it go and move forward.
Challenging Unrealistic Expectations
As I have already covered it on the blog in the past, mums have huge expectations in 2025. Very often, we are too harsh on ourselves and the truth is, we want to achieve too much while being a mum. Often, we want to reach for l’impossible! Social media and our way of life is not helping in the matter. If you are not that super working mum who ticks all the boxes, you can sometimes feel like a failure.
But you don’t have to do everything for everyone. Therapy will help you identify any unrealistic expectations you have. But they will also show you that they are not necessaires. Helping you to reflect, they will make you realise you don’t need it. Let’s be honnête, would you even expect it from another mum?
Overtime, your therapy will help you replace judgment of nasty self-talk with kindness and more realistic expectations. Have some compassion for yourself. You are enough the way you are.
Building Healthier Coping Skills
Therapy can also helps you build string coping skills for you to use in the future. Not only you will be kinder to yourself, but you will also get good routines in place to feel better.
In the right therapy setting, you’ll learn practical ways to learn how to deal with mum guilt and how to hold it constructively. Being a parent is not easy! It’s l’opposé! Indeed, it’s a learning curve and you can’t expect to get it right first time round.
Rather than letting guilt spiral into mum-shaming marathons, you’ll practice quick breathing pauses and ways to cope with your thoughts. At the end of the day, they are just thoughts; never forget that!
Strengthening Relationships
If mum guilt put up a barrier to intimacy, therapy will also help you remake those connections. It will be a mix of openly talking with your husband or partner while establishing boundaries.
You might even find that couple therapy will help your relationship further. Too often, women who experience mum guilt shut themselves off. But communicating with your loved-ones is key to success.
Can a Therapist Help With Guilt?
You might be hesitant to seek help. Can a therapist help with guilt? Oui, absolument! Therapy will not cure your mum guilt overnight. It’s a journey to take.
Be reassured that it will help you figure it out, learn how to deal with it, and move forward. You will feel happier and lighter. If anything, you need a compassionate voice to let it go and express your doubts and fears so that they don’t haunt you in your mind.
Through working with a professional, you learn you’re worth more than guilt. You’re just a human being at the end of the day and nobody is parfait! That mindset shift will change everything.
Long-term Growth & Healing
Therapy is not a quick fix, but it’s worth it as it will have a huge impact in the long-term. Not only the mum guilt will actually start to go but you will also gain a better grip upon your life.
It can help you become more confident in your parenting decisions, more self-forgiving and more compassionate.
Worried that it is not worth the money? If you feel mentally better and you can find happiness in life again, then it’s worthwhile. Investing in yourself and you mental well-being is the best decision you can make.
A Happy Mum Makes a Happy Family.
If you ever had any doubts, I hope this post on why using a therapist to to deal with mum guilt will help you.
Mum guilt is the worst! This little voice in your head can have such disastrous impact on your life and family. You deserve of peace of mind and happiness. So going into therapy when you feel mum guilt is so worth it. Not only it will impact on your life, but it will also make such a difference on others around you.
You are enough and you need to give yourself permission to be happy. Plus you know what we say, a happy mum makes a happy family. So what are you waiting for? Whatever stops you from doing it, put it on the side and find a new and happier you.
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