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Do you know this famous quote by Shakespeare ‘It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves’?
I came across it today when I was spending (or wasting?) my time on the internet. For once, Baba is asleep quite early without a massive fight. So I am finding myself browsing on the laptop while Grumpy Boyfriend is working.
I have so much to do. I need to answer some emails, schedule some posts, plan some tweets… But here we are, I am faffing about online when I always complain that Baba is so demanding at times that I can’t get on with my blog. Now I have the time and I spend it reading idiotic things on the web. I am just procrastinating. Who is the little monkey now? Frenchie Mummy!
Wasting my time? Maybe not. So I bumped into this quote. Well, it bumped into me really… It’s about Fate and how you control yours. Do you fully agree with it? I actually kind of disagree with Shakespeare.
It’s true that to some extent I determined my destiny.
I have always wanted to be a teacher. I studied for it and here go, it’s done.
I have always wanted to have kids and now it’s done with my wonderful bundle of Joy, Baba le roi.
Wait, this one is a massive lie! If you asked me when I was 20 years old, I didn’t want un bébé. I was actually seeing myself more like a Bridget Jones. We had a lot in common. Like her, I was in love with chocolate and fags, way too much! I know I was a naughty girl… It’s all over now. I am a good girl, promise. I don’t even think about having one. Even when Baba has the worst tantrum on the bus for a good 20 minutes and everyone gives me this judgmental look ‘She can’t even take care of this little baby…’
So anyway, are we in control of our destiny or not? I like to think that I am, but truly, sometimes the stars are taking care of yourself. I don’t know if it’s a god or something else. I won’t even have this debate. This is not the purpose of this post and I am too tired to get into such a complex question. Remember? A mummy brain is well tired passed a certain point.
Sometimes, Fate decides for you and that’s it. Fate decided for me when I arrived in the UK 8 years ago. It was just supposed to be for a year. But Destiny put me into a certain school to work. A place I loved so much that I made the decision to stay longer.
Destiny decided for me to live in the South-East of London. I could have been in Norfolk or like somewhere isolated and wild. The nightmare for the city girl I have always been. It also decided to help me find a lovely house share in a green and nice area. I didn’t end up renting a tiny flat with 5 other workers!
Fate decided that one night, in February 2010 (already more than 6 years ago), while I was out for a drink in a pub, a guy engaged the conversation with the worst chat up line ever: ‘You look like you are having a good night with your friend’. Pas terrible, I know… I might tell you one day everything about the night I met Grumpy Boyfriend…
Writing those lines, I realise how lucky I have been to some extent. Don’t get me wrong. I love being in control and therefore would love to think that I am the master of my life. And I showed earlier that I am. But je pense aussi that up there, somewhere, there is something or someone, mon ange-gardien who is taking care of me.
What do you make of this quote? Do you agree with Shakespeare? Or do you think that something is holding a little tiny bit of power over our existence? I would love to hear from you.