You get it; this post is going to be a massive rant. No nice and witty Frenchie Mummy today. I am not in the mood! Baba decided to wake up three times last night and I am knackered. Also, Grumpy Boyfriend booked a table at a super posh restaurant for tonight but we had to cancel at the last minute… So, I am in a rage.
Literally, I have been roaring all morning. Grumpy Boyfriend is long gone to his office while I am typing those lines.
No one to face my anger! I can’t take it on Baba! He is too cute and too young…
Therefore, someone has to take the blame! Well, someone in the blogosphere will be my punching ball. No one, in particular, don’t worry. I am not going to name anyone.
Today, I am going to have a go at you. Yeah, you the cheater on Facebook groups! Just let me know, please. What is the point of you to join such groups? Why would you take part in a thread and then not follow the rules?
I explain. I am a member of 20 bloggers groups, if not more, on Facebook. I take part in several threads every day. This is my new addiction. I am not so much on linkies at the moment. I decided to slow it down. I don’t have as much time as before to properly comment on blogs. Therefore, I don’t do it to avoid let people down.
Anyway. Back to Facebook groups. There isn’t one where I have seen everyone playing 100% by the rules.
Here is an example that really annoyed me. It was by an American group. The thread was clear. All you needed to do was ask for a specific favour to all members. I wanted them to like my Facebook page (it’s here if you fancy joining. If you don’t want to miss my latest post but you also like seeing cute pics of Baba, this is the place to be!).
I am trying to grow this social media platform at the moment. Once the members were done, they were supposed to like my comment on the thread. Pretty standard if you take part in Facebook groups.
People had a 48 hours window to complete it. There were about 50 people joining the thread. It took me ages to complete what everyone asked for: pin a post, connect on Twitter or whatever they wanted. Conscientious, I stayed up all night to do it on time.
And you know what? I reckon 10% of those people didn’t like my page as I asked. So I did the favour they asked for, but they didn’t return it. Some didn’t even bother to like my comment. I suppose the admin will deal with them? Warn them or ban them from the group? I don’t care.
But what annoyed me is that 4 people pretended they liked my page. They liked my comment on the thread but yet, they did nothing on my page! I asked them if they used another username. None bothered to reply. Someone told me that, due to certain settings people choose, you sometimes don’t have a notification when they like your page on Facebook.
Right, but I checked the number of people liking my page before and after this particular thread and it was not right. Those 4 people didn’t play the game! They cheated!
I don’t do that all the time, you know. I don’t check on people like that! But it was so clear they were cheating that I decided to investigate. Just for once.
The whole thing really annoyed me. It was like being back at school (I am a teacher). ‘I swear I did my homework Miss, but my dad’s dinosaure ate my bag today and my French book with my homework was in it! I will give it to you tomorrow, first thing in the morning.’
And then they turn up with what is clearly a duplicate of their best mate’s work, with exactly the same mistakes, word for word. I am sure you get me if you are a teacher too… You have no idea what students come up with to avoid a detention…
Another example that actually made me write this post. It just happened yesterday. You might even know what I am talking about if you are a member of this Facebook group.
The thread was clear. Follow everyone on Twitter and don’t take part if you plan on unfollowing other members afterwards. So here again, Frenchie Mummy was a good girl. She followed the rules and connected with every single person on the thread, even the ones that were not in my niche.
I went to bed when my Crowdfire app beeped. If you don’t have it yet, download it now! It tells you who follows / unfollows you!
Someone from that thread unfollowed me, not even 24 hours after completing it! I was fuming! This person clearly didn’t understand the rules… I don’t have a problem with people unfollowing me on Twitter. We all do it. It’s simple if people do so, I do the same. We are not all real friends. No strings attached. But there, the point of that thread was to connect with other people and not ditch them as soon as possible to grow numbers on Twitter.
I am not perfect. I am sure that sometimes, I may have missed some stuff like that or didn’t oblige to the rules by accident or because I rushed it.
I have a clear example in mind. When I started joining linkies, I once put a post and barely commented on other blogs. Here is what happened: I linked up my post and then got distracted with Baba. He was still very small at the time and needed so much attention… One thing after another, I took care of him and then completed other tasks in the house. I totally forgot that I needed to finish this linky.
The week after, I rushed to my computer to take part again. Only at that moment, I realised with horror that I didn’t do the previous one properly! I was mortified! I emailed straight away the person who was running it to apologise! She laughed and said it was fine. It could happen sometimes. Since then, I have a notebook next to my laptop and drop what I need to do every day!
So nobody is perfect and it might be the case that sometimes you don’t mean to not follow the rules on a Facebook group. It’s ok. All you need to do is say ‘Sorry’. We are all humans (and adults!)
But please, don’t do like this blogger who denied the whole thing. She even turned it around saying that I was not following her.
She said I was sarcastic (she had a point! I was very much indeed because she really pissed me off!).
She can say that. I don’t mind. I am many other things. I am a perfectionist, I am demanding (ask Grumpy Boyfriend, he can tell you a lot about it!), sometimes lazy (especially when it involves housework…), I am bloody stubborn but also a bit cocky (not my fault, it’s my Frenchie part…), but I am honest!
And yeah, I left her a sarcastic comment on the thread because she wasted my time and tried to lie about it like I was the bad one in the story…
I just want to finish this post with 3 little (actually massive!) points that are important to me:
- If you run a linky or if you are in charge of a Facebook group, I admire you! It involves so much work! I don’t know how you do it. There are always people that will try to take advantage of the system and not be fair… That’s probably why I will never run a linky myself. It would be too much hassle. It would give me more grey hair! I even reckon the teacher I am would want to scream ‘You!!!!! 20 minutes detention after school!’ I left this kind of annoyance when I became a SAHM… So no thank you!
- If you are a person who joins linkies and Facebook groups and you always play by the rules, I also admire you. Because you have what we call the #bloglove. And that’s because of people like you that those groups and tribes are fabulous! You are the reason why bloggers like me want to be part of your gang! You are the ones that make new bloggers work harder and continue connecting with you. Merci!
- If you are one of those cheaters on Facebook groups, please look at yourself in the mirror… Is it really worth it? Is it who you want to be? A dishonest person? Just to have big numbers showing off on social media platforms? Don’t be daft! Some other members know what you are doing and one day, you will be caught and banned. But I suppose you can join many other groups and start it all over again… But please, just stay away from me. I might turn into Mumzilla and eat you!!
Pardon chers lecteurs! I am so sorry you had to read this post today. But I needed to get it out. Surely, I am not the only one experiencing this kind of crap! Merde! I said a bad word! I must still be angry…
I would love to hear your opinion about the whole thing. Are you a member of Facebook groups? Do you run a linky and see people not following the rules? How do you keep calm? (I might need some tips on this…) How often do you see people cheating?